oof – Saturna Sorceress

magicmoon65:

wlwocsource:

Signs that you probably like girls (for young wlw and questioning wlw):

You overwhelmingly prefer spending time with girls and feel more comfortable in their presence.

You pay a lot of attention to female celebrities.

You project feelings onto male celebrities and male characters that female characters you like are in romantic relationships with.

You use gender neutral pronouns to refer to a crush.

You read LGBT works or watch LGBT works out of “curiosity”.

You think of yourself as a very invested ally but often get asked if you yourself are gay because of the magnitude of your allyship.

You get extremely uncomfortable when friends and family make homophobic remarks, as if they are personally insulting you.

You gravitate toward the out LGBT people around you.

You find yourself forcing feelings of attraction toward girls down or rationalizing those feelings with all sorts of reasons (”I don’t like girls, I’m just going through a phase” or “I’m only thinking this because no boys talk to me/no boys like me” or “I just admire her fashion” or “I just really want to be her friend”).

You feel guilty and ashamed about the feelings of attraction that you pretend don’t exist.

You flinch when people talk about the “college bisexual phase” or “the bicurious phase” (this really applies to bisexual women).

You don’t truly like male celebrities but you name a token one to appease people (this really applies to lesbians).

You cannot envision yourself in a long-term relationship with a man, you feel uncomfortable at the thought of being with one, or you feel scared about engaging in any sort of intimacy with one (this really applies to lesbians).

You think of yourself as “heteroflexible” or as “experimenting” or “curious” (this applies to bisexual women quite frequently but it also applies to lesbians).

You continually rewatch scenes of f/f romance or intimacy that you’ve seen on television or in movies.

You find yourself replacing pronouns in songs or listening to music written and sung by openly gay female artists.

You try and read f/f works out of “curiosity”.

You feel personally affronted or scared when you witness out wlw near you getting targeted by homophobia.

If you’re looking up “am I gay?” or “how do I know if I like girls” on google or on youtube, trust me: you like girls.

You feel like you have to date a boy just to along with everyone else dating a boy (this applies to lesbians quite frequently but it also applies to bisexual women).

You may be in a relationship with a boy but feel dissatisfied or find your attention settling on girls anyway (this really applies to lesbians).

You may genuinely like boys and get attracted to them which confuses you when you also get attracted to girls, and you find yourself denying that you like girls because you also like boys (this really applies to bisexual women).

-You “choose” a crush on a guy, or look around and pick someone to have a crush on (I think this mostly applies to lesbians) (most of me being aware enough was a thought-I-was-bi so it’ll probably mostly apply to lesbians)
-when male-attracted friends talk about guys or specifically their body parts being attractive you just sort of nod along
-you perfer feminine boys, thinner ones/with curves/with more delicate features
-or you have “crushes” on unattainable boys (gay, in a relationship (and when they break up you don’t like them anymore), famous, ect.)
-You get a lot of “girl crushes” or “friend crushes” on girls
-You get nervous talking to girls for no decernable reason/because the girl is hot/pretty and you assume she’d never talk to you
-You notice when girls wear attractive clothing that makes their legs/chest/arms/face look good, and are fascinated by the way girls move (specifically while dancing or doing sports)
– You get distracted from what you’re doing to look at a girl and “notice their beauty”
– you’ll stare at said girl for an extended period of time